Monday, March 8, 2010
Dominance. Once you have established that you are in control, you can take your dominance to the next level. Don’t push too hard or too fast. She will let you know when she is ready to trust you to take control.
Be a gentleman; open car doors for her, help her sit, offer to do things for her that is easier for a man to do. You do want her to depend on you and it’s important that she feels safe with you. Take her to places where it is expected woman will wear dresses, skirts, high heels and depend on an escort to make the evening easier.
Remember the earlier blog spoke of using your strength to occasionally guide her? Continue to do so but now you can step it up slightly. Take her to your place for an evening for a meal you prepared or to watch a movie you picked out. Pour her a drink; don’t ask if she wants one. By giving her a drink you are establishing control for the evening.
At some point you will want to go to the next level with her. There are a number of ways of doing this. One way, when you are alone with her, is to remove your tie and as you kiss her, wrap the tie around her wrists. Her reaction will tell you if she is ready. She may laugh and slip her hands out of them, she may look down and not resist at all. If she does resist, do not be alarmed. Try again when she is more comfortable.
Another method is to sit in an armchair and ask her to bring you a drink. When she hands you the drink, gently take her arm and pull her towards the floor, telling her you want her to sit by you. If she complies and sits on the floor next to you, it is a sign she is submitting to you. If she sits on your lap or on the arm of the chair, she is not ready yet.
Regardless of her actions, continue to promote her wearing clothes that show off her figure and legs. You want her to feel sexy and at the same time dependent on you. Next blog I will tell of the time I got “M” to submit for the first time.