Collar time

I remember the first time I presented "M" with a collar. It was a beautiful metal and black leather collar that used a small padlock to ensure its closure. When I opened the package in front of her I expected she would be hesitant about accepting it. "M" has a strong personality and she fought me as I pressed my control over her. The collar is very symbolic; it asserts that the person wearing it is a sub and I was not going to force it on her. If she refused to wear it I would continue my task of dominating her. So far she had resisted my attempts but after some discipline she would obey my wishes.
I did understand she enjoyed being spanked, but she preferred it first if I used my strength to pull over my knee. Once she had been spanked, always bare bottomed, she would act like a proper sub. It was a game she liked to play, to see how far I would go to keep her in line.
I did use bondage as a way of discipline. I would use ropes to secure her to a door, hogtie her and even occasionally to the coffee table. Believe me, there are a lot of ways to use rope to secure a pretty woman to a position.
Back to the collar. When "M" saw the collar she was ecstatic. She quickly put it on and knelled in front of me. Her words were, "I finally feel like a proper slave now."
It marked the end of "M"s resistance to me. With that collar I now had full control.

Keeping her naked

I mentioned how I spanked “M” for the first time and I continued to push my dominance over her carefully over the next few weeks. I suppose some would call it training but I thought of it conditioning her to accept myself as her master.
On one occasion I phoned her in the morning before she went to work; she still lived separately from me. I told her I wanted her to wear a skirt but she was not to wear any panties. She protested she was already dressed but that simply told me she wasn’t really refusing my command, just the timing of it. I then repeated my command and informed her she was now going to receive discipline as well when I saw her later. There was a small hesitation and she said she was sorry and would change immediately. Of course I administered a spanking that evening and then made her stand in a corner for ten minutes. The next time I phoned in the morning and told her what to wear there wasn’t any hesitation in her agreement.
On the following weekend I stayed over and wanted to exert my control. I told her she was not allowed to get dressed until I said so and I would choose what she could wear later. I went out Saturday afternoon alone. I didn’t tell her where I was going or when I would be back. She glared at me, which earned her several swats on her bum, and I left. I went for a coffee, returning almost two hours later and saw she was naked and subdued. She apologized for being defiant and kneeled in front of me. I was pleased at her new attitude and took her out for dinner that evening, giving her only a dress and shoes to wear.
During the next few weeks I would also tie her up in different positions when the opportunity arose. Cuffs would have been easier, but I preferred to use rope at those first sessions. I liked to use lots of rope that made her feel completely captured and helpless. I didn’t use much discipline then, but was watching her carefully as she submitted to being captive. She was enjoying her bondage sessions and mild spankings, but I was planning to increase the discipline a bit. In the next blog I will explain what I did next.

I recall fondly the first time I felt “M” was under my control. I was very patient with her, slowly showing her my ability to direct her to do what I wanted. Then one evening I decided to take the leap and push her into a submissive act for the first time. Afterwards she asked me what took me so long! I guess I missed a few hints before she was ready.
We had an outing to a nice lounge for drinks and a small bite to eat, and then I took her to my place. She was wearing a short skirt and a simple top, looking very pretty and sexy. The skirt was something I told her on the phone I wanted her to wear. She complied without comment and I had a sense she knew something was going to happen.
At my place I gave her a drink and sat next to her on the couch, joking with her and letting my hands run up and down her legs. After she finished her drink I told her last week she had been having naughty thoughts and I needed to correct that. Her response was something like how I planned to do that, and as an answer I put my arm around her shoulder and pushed her down and over my lap.
“M” giggled as she rolled over my lap and I quickly established my control by giving her several swats on her ass. She didn’t struggle other than place a hand over her backside that I quickly grabbed to pin her better. I lifted up her skirt to her waist and pulled down her panties before spanking her again. She gave a small shriek but it didn’t sound like a protest. I knew she was waiting what I was going to do next, and that was to push her top and bra off. I told her I wanted her naked and she assisted me as she rested across my lap. After I removed her skirt I gave her another spanking. I then removed my belt and told her to cross her wrists behind her back. She quickly obeyed and I tied her wrists with my belt. I had her; naked, secured and looking lovely over my lap.
I told “M” that from now on I was going to control her. After a brief hesitation she nodded. I allowed her to get up after another spanking but kept her hands secured behind her back. I still had more plans for her. I would like to point out the spanking wasn’t hard. It was not meant to cause her any pain but to establish I could spank her when I wanted to.
Next blog I will talk about on my next steps with “M”.

Establishing control

Dominance. Once you have established that you are in control, you can take your dominance to the next level. Don’t push too hard or too fast. She will let you know when she is ready to trust you to take control.
Be a gentleman; open car doors for her, help her sit, offer to do things for her that is easier for a man to do. You do want her to depend on you and it’s important that she feels safe with you. Take her to places where it is expected woman will wear dresses, skirts, high heels and depend on an escort to make the evening easier.
Remember the earlier blog spoke of using your strength to occasionally guide her? Continue to do so but now you can step it up slightly. Take her to your place for an evening for a meal you prepared or to watch a movie you picked out. Pour her a drink; don’t ask if she wants one. By giving her a drink you are establishing control for the evening.
At some point you will want to go to the next level with her. There are a number of ways of doing this. One way, when you are alone with her, is to remove your tie and as you kiss her, wrap the tie around her wrists. Her reaction will tell you if she is ready. She may laugh and slip her hands out of them, she may look down and not resist at all. If she does resist, do not be alarmed. Try again when she is more comfortable.
Another method is to sit in an armchair and ask her to bring you a drink. When she hands you the drink, gently take her arm and pull her towards the floor, telling her you want her to sit by you. If she complies and sits on the floor next to you, it is a sign she is submitting to you. If she sits on your lap or on the arm of the chair, she is not ready yet.
Regardless of her actions, continue to promote her wearing clothes that show off her figure and legs. You want her to feel sexy and at the same time dependent on you. Next blog I will tell of the time I got “M” to submit for the first time.

the start of dominance

Dominance. That can be a powerful word to use when describing a situation or a relationship. When you are with a partner for a period of time one will eventually exert dominance over the other to varying degrees. As a male, you want that to be you. One thing you should be aware of is that your lady wants you to be dominate as well (that is, most women do want their male partner to be strong and be the leader).
You do not have to overpowering to dominate. Simple acts will reinforce that role. If you are at a party take a moment to tell her you want to show her something (it can be anything like a painting or a chair) and use your hand to direct her to the new location. Do not point or just lead. Let her feel the strength in your hand. Another method is to talk to her when she is blocked by a wall or another object. Move in close and let her know she is captive to you for the moment.
When you are about to go to a function and you want to impress her, wear big clothes. Shirts with long sleeves, a sports jacket or a suit will make you look bigger and more powerful. The less she wears, the more powerful you will be in her eyes and she will depend on you to keep the other male predators away.
Remember to use your size to your advantage. Occasionally put your arm around her but do not over do it and look clingy or scared to leave her alone. It is important for you to tell her what you will be doing so she can be prepared, but don’t explain unless it’s important to do so. For example, at a party tell her that “We will be leaving after 11pm” but you shouldn’t have to explain why.
Next blog will discuss what to do when you are alone with her and how to make her more submissive.