Thursday, December 27, 2007

Control

"M" has been willful lately, maybe something to do with being naughty or nice. Usually I use cuffs on her and then have my way with her. But this time I thought she needed- and wanted- more.

The first thing I do is put her collar on her and lock it. She will protest and give token resistance to the collar being placed around her neck but once that collar is on she becomes submissive. She gives in to my superior strength and will. I could order her to undress at this point and she would. But I prefer to undress her myself now, letting her know I'm going to hands on this time. I'm careful with her clothes but have been known to be less gentle on her panties and bra. I do believe she likes it when I tear her panties off, though the bra can be expensive so I make a decision as to whether I like the bra style or not. If it is full coverage and doesn't enhance her breasts then I will usually ruin it.

Instead of cuffs I use rope. Rope takes longer and I want her to feel the lose of her own control slowly as the rope goes around her limbs. I don't stop at her ankles, knees, elbows and wrists. I also will bind her breasts. At this point she is usually twisting her body in excitement but I like to add a crotch rope as well, often with a knot that will press against her pussy.

At this point sometimes I will gag her for a short time. One thing she knows is that later she will be disciplined, more on that in a future blog, and that I will be getting a blow job from her.

Try using lots of soft ropes on your lady sometime. It stretches out the time to put her into bondage and she will enjoy it as you slowly secure her.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Bondage ceiling hook



Depending on the time you have and whether you want to try something new in restraining your lady, you might want to consider using a simple hook in the ceiling. Once she is willing to submit to you it is important to try different types of bondage to make it interesting for both of you. As you can see on my website it is very easy to quickly hand a chain or a rope from a hook implanted into the ceiling. Make sure the hook is into a solid surface and not just the drywall. Hooks of various strengths can be purchased from hardware stores and range from ones designed to hold a plant pot to those strong enough to lift several hundred pounds.
One thing is nice about the ceiling hook is that whatever room you choose to place it in, it won't look out of place and draw needless attention. Besides the bedroom you may wish to consider the living room, garage, basement or a spare room.
Try getting the quick disconnect latches. If company expectantly arrives you can quickly free her.
Now the nice thing about the ceiling hook is you can easily add a chain or rope to it and then handcuff her to hanging chain (or rope). Very quickly she is helpless in front of you.
You may want to consider adding a second hook to hold not just her hands but her ankles as well. If the hooks are strong enough (and put a soft mat under her in case they fail) you may wish to try suspension bondage. More on that in a future blog.

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Hog Tie



The hog tie is a simple bondage method to hold a woman in a helpless position. With her arms behind her back and secured to her feet she is forced to lie unresisting to your advances.

You can touch her, spank her or do what you will. As you can see in the photographs she can be tied in a rather simple fashion using ropes or cuffs. However with a little imagination you can use more complex ties. After the tie is complete you can add to her submission by putting a collar on her, gagging her or attaching nipple clamps.

As in one picture you can also tie her so she is bent over backwards. Besides the workbench, chairs, multiple cushions, small tables can also work. What is important is if you can bend her back slightly (not too much- you don't want her to tire too soon). This improves her posture at her front, lifting her breasts to a pleasing position. With her hands behind her back and her legs pulled back her whole front is available for you to see and touch.

Remember she is vulnerable to your wishes. Touch her often. Massage her. Rub oil on her skin. Even, if she enjoys it, drip candle wax on her. Tying her wrists and feet together is just the first step. Now is the time to make sure she enjoys the experience for next time.

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Bedroom bondage

The photos on www.nshoward.com deal with bedroom bondage, usually the best place to use restraints. Obviously the bedroom is an excellent place to take advantage of her. Restraints can be safely kept in the room and brought out as needed.
The bed often has several places where you can secure rope or chains to and as we see the pictures a poster bed has many advantages.
One other consideration is the bed itself. The mattress will help make her comfortable. As been noted in earlier blogs it is important that she is comfortable so both of you can get maximum enjoyment of the bondage.
Sometimes in the morning I attach and lock a cuff on "M's" wrist or ankle and run a chain from it to the bed corner. She knows she will be properly secured later on but for now enjoys the thought of being a captive woman. I usually go the kitchen and make her a small breakfast of toast and tea. As she eats her breakfast she has time to anticipate what I will be doing to her and that makes her excited by the time her tea is finished.
You may wish to try something similar yourself and may even consider securing a cuff to her wrist or ankle the night before. Guaranteed she will wake up aroused.

Friday, November 2, 2007

Stand up bondage

This week at my website- http://www.nshoward.com/- I have included pictures of women with their hands tied above their head. As with my other articles I'm assuming that the bondage is consensual; that she enjoys being put into restraints.

There are a few advantages to do so with above the head restraint. First, whether you use cuffs or rope, you can make her helpless quickly. A female with her wrists tied together and secured above her head is under your control. You can, of course, add additional restraints to her arms, legs, ankles or torso. There is also the possibility of adding a gag and a collar, and these two item will make her feel even more submissive.

The second consideration for restraining her arms above her head is that it improves her posture. The breasts are lifted upward, her back is stretched out and her stomach flattened. If she lifted high enough she will have to reach out with her foot to touch the floor. If her toes are just reaching the floor it will make her legs look longer.

Finally if you tie her up in the manner shown in the pictures you can walk around her and survey her body from all angles. It's easy to give her a pat on her ass or touch her any way your want. Hanging from the ceiling does allow her to move around as well if her feet can reach the floor and if there is a mirror in the room she will enjoy the sight of her own body hanging helplessly.

Give it a try on your lady. Remember as with a lot of bondage check to see if she is tiring or getting uncomfortable.

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Collars

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Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Cuffs or ropes

In my novel Praxton, Slaves of the Rogue World, the female characters all wear collars and usually cuffs. I used cuffs in the novel for several reasons.

The first is that cuffs are always on and makes it easy for her Guardian to quickly join them together or attach them to chains. The cuffs and collars on Praxton were also considered part of the fashion accessories. They often matched and could be of an elaborate design. Females did not leave their bedroom without a collar on and often choose cuffs to go with outfit they were planning to wear that day.

I also choose cuffs over ropes for one other very good reason. Females on Praxton were expected to take very good care of themselves and spent a good portion of each morning preparing themselves. That effort would be partially defeated if ropes were used and left marks on the skin. On Praxton it was illegal for the Guardian to leave permanent marks on the female skin.

There is nothing wrong with ropes; certainly to the female they may make her feel even more restrained as they put pressure on area where they are attached. Ropes can also do more than just secure limbs. They can used in breast bondage and make the breast and nipples more prominent. In addition they can circle the waist and go between her legs to make crotch rope. These all allow the male to control her very effectively and help stimulate her as well.
The preference is always personal and can be a combination of the two. For beginners cuffs may be better. Ropes can be put on too tight and there is a small risk of pinching her skin if not done with care. Not sure which to use on her? Ask her and then restrain away!

Monday, October 22, 2007

Welcome to my first blog

Hi there and thank you stopping to read this. I write erotic literature and would like to share with you some of my thoughts on this genre. First, not everyone agrees what is and what isn't erotic. Some call my writings too tame while others think it's overboard. Obviously, to each his own.
For example read the comments on my free short story The Doorway. Some thought it was too slow a pace but others loved the slow buildup. To me it is easy to write about the physical act but what I like is the thought process of the characters and why they do what they do. Catherine's seduction into bondage was carefully planned by Daniel and I wanted to show how she came to accept what she wanted in the end.
I will be trying to add to this blog once a week. I want to explore erotic writing usually with a theme of bondage in it. I will be using photos to describe some of the topics and hope to get feedback from you as well. Til next week.