Control

"M" has been willful lately, maybe something to do with being naughty or nice. Usually I use cuffs on her and then have my way with her. But this time I thought she needed- and wanted- more.

The first thing I do is put her collar on her and lock it. She will protest and give token resistance to the collar being placed around her neck but once that collar is on she becomes submissive. She gives in to my superior strength and will. I could order her to undress at this point and she would. But I prefer to undress her myself now, letting her know I'm going to hands on this time. I'm careful with her clothes but have been known to be less gentle on her panties and bra. I do believe she likes it when I tear her panties off, though the bra can be expensive so I make a decision as to whether I like the bra style or not. If it is full coverage and doesn't enhance her breasts then I will usually ruin it.

Instead of cuffs I use rope. Rope takes longer and I want her to feel the lose of her own control slowly as the rope goes around her limbs. I don't stop at her ankles, knees, elbows and wrists. I also will bind her breasts. At this point she is usually twisting her body in excitement but I like to add a crotch rope as well, often with a knot that will press against her pussy.

At this point sometimes I will gag her for a short time. One thing she knows is that later she will be disciplined, more on that in a future blog, and that I will be getting a blow job from her.

Try using lots of soft ropes on your lady sometime. It stretches out the time to put her into bondage and she will enjoy it as you slowly secure her.

Stand up bondage

This week at my website- http://www.nshoward.com/- I have included pictures of women with their hands tied above their head. As with my other articles I'm assuming that the bondage is consensual; that she enjoys being put into restraints.

There are a few advantages to do so with above the head restraint. First, whether you use cuffs or rope, you can make her helpless quickly. A female with her wrists tied together and secured above her head is under your control. You can, of course, add additional restraints to her arms, legs, ankles or torso. There is also the possibility of adding a gag and a collar, and these two item will make her feel even more submissive.

The second consideration for restraining her arms above her head is that it improves her posture. The breasts are lifted upward, her back is stretched out and her stomach flattened. If she lifted high enough she will have to reach out with her foot to touch the floor. If her toes are just reaching the floor it will make her legs look longer.

Finally if you tie her up in the manner shown in the pictures you can walk around her and survey her body from all angles. It's easy to give her a pat on her ass or touch her any way your want. Hanging from the ceiling does allow her to move around as well if her feet can reach the floor and if there is a mirror in the room she will enjoy the sight of her own body hanging helplessly.

Give it a try on your lady. Remember as with a lot of bondage check to see if she is tiring or getting uncomfortable.

Cuffs or ropes

In my novel Praxton, Slaves of the Rogue World, the female characters all wear collars and usually cuffs. I used cuffs in the novel for several reasons.

The first is that cuffs are always on and makes it easy for her Guardian to quickly join them together or attach them to chains. The cuffs and collars on Praxton were also considered part of the fashion accessories. They often matched and could be of an elaborate design. Females did not leave their bedroom without a collar on and often choose cuffs to go with outfit they were planning to wear that day.

I also choose cuffs over ropes for one other very good reason. Females on Praxton were expected to take very good care of themselves and spent a good portion of each morning preparing themselves. That effort would be partially defeated if ropes were used and left marks on the skin. On Praxton it was illegal for the Guardian to leave permanent marks on the female skin.

There is nothing wrong with ropes; certainly to the female they may make her feel even more restrained as they put pressure on area where they are attached. Ropes can also do more than just secure limbs. They can used in breast bondage and make the breast and nipples more prominent. In addition they can circle the waist and go between her legs to make crotch rope. These all allow the male to control her very effectively and help stimulate her as well.
The preference is always personal and can be a combination of the two. For beginners cuffs may be better. Ropes can be put on too tight and there is a small risk of pinching her skin if not done with care. Not sure which to use on her? Ask her and then restrain away!